So here’s the big question… Is fear of the unknown really the cause of all our failures in life? Today that’s what we are going to talk about. We are going to dissect this idea and find out whether fear of the unknown is one of the cause of why we don’t take action when it’s time to take action.
I recently read a book about fear. I gotta tell you… I think it’s a pretty good book, given that it’s packed with self-help info that can really increase productivity and open mind to a wide range of knowledge.
But as I continued reading this book, there’s an idea here that struck my attention. One of the subtitle says Fear of the Unknown. What it’s saying is that, the reason why we don’t take action towards the accomplishment of our goals is because we fear the unknown. This had been my belief in the past years, but Is this true? Because this got me thinking for a minute. Something about this didn’t sit right with me and I’m going to tell you exactly why.
If you would ask me if I agree with this school of thought or idea, I would say, “Partly”. What I can agree upon is that fear can make us doubtful and even stop us from moving forward. It’s very possible, given that the person is not a strong-willed and lacking of zest in life.
What I don’t agree upon is that it is stating that we “fear the unknown”. What’s not right about this idea? Well, if you would think about it, there is this nature of our minds that make things fall into chronological order. What do I mean by that?
There are three parts that I’d like you to keep in mind on. First is our thoughts, second is our emotions and third is physical senses. Now, if you would try to observe closely, before we can feel emotions that are either negative or positive it first has to be triggered. Positive or negative emotions do not generate themselves on their own.
Now, the question is, what fist has to happen before emotions are generated? If you answered thoughts or physical sensation, then your answer is correct.
With that says, in order for us to feel negative emotions, we have to first register negative thoughts in our minds.
Now, let’s go back to the Fear of the Unknown. What is kind of emotion does the unknown generates? Is it positive or negative? The answer is neither one of them. Why is that? Because the unknown is like a blank canvas. There’s no negative or positive image in it, which also means it does not trigger anything. If something, the closest trigger we can get is boredom.
Okay, so If the unknown does not trigger emotion of fear, then what? The answer is simply… It’s like what Tony Robbins said, It’s the meaning that we give it, it’s in what we paint on the blank canvas, which is the unknown. Or the story that we tell ourselves about the unknown.
What does this mean? It means that if we are to experience emotion of fear by looking at the unknown or the blank canvas, that means we would have to paint fearful images that will cause us to feel the fear, otherwise, fear would not exist. We have to first imagine ourselves failing and how hard it’s going to be, and then we feel the fear that destroy our motivation to move forward.
I’d like to give you a quick example here. What’s a reason why little kids jump in a pool without any doubt or sign of fear whatsoever? The reason why is because they did not have emotions of fear, they don’t know what’s going to happen. They have no knowledge of the danger, of drowning or of how cold the water would be. They don’t know if they are going to get hurt. The only motivation they have for doing it is to find out what it’s like to jump into the pool.
In conclusion, it is not the fear of the unknown that’s stopping us. What is stopping us is the negative thoughts or expectations that we have about the future. So do your best to be aware of that.
What do you think about when you think about the future? Do you see yourself failing or do you just let your tenacity describe or paint what the future holds? It’s up to you to decide.